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“We rise by lifting others.”
-Robert Ingersoll

For those of you who follow my blog then you know already that I started the Wildfit 90 day Challenge 6 weeks ago. Wildfit is a program that helps you to find your way back to how we evolved to eat. In the last 6 weeks we have cut out everything but vegetables and proteins. Sound horrible? It’s not. Eric Edmeades, the founder of Wildfit has this program down to a science and because so much of it is psychology it doesn’t allow you to really feel deprived. Of course I miss my coffee and my avocado toast, but let me tell you about how I feel. I feel incredible. My energy levels are soaring and my skin is glowing. My allergies have been diminished and I am losing inches. It’s working.

A few weeks ago I was cruising Instagram and an invitation to join a free three day seminar on Business Freedom popped up. The facilitator was none other than Eric Edmeades from Wildfit. Now I am a trained artist/designer with commercial experience, but never have I been trained as a business person. Most of you know that my dream is to one day open a retreat for women and children who have survived domestic violence. I feel like I am treading water though because I just don’t know where to start. Aside from the complexities of my personal life (needing to stay on the down low for safety) I need help. So I decided to sign up for this live three day Business Freedom seminar and see what it was about.

I had the benefit of “meeting” Eric through Wildfit already and I knew that he has a communication style that resonated with me. Perhaps he could actually talk business with the same effect. For 3 hours a day, 3 days in a row,  I was glued to my computer for this live seminar. It wasn’t boring at all. I understood everything that was being presented. It got my blood pumping and my mind churning for all the possibilities. I started re-working my vision board and I stuck this image in the center of it.

944443_480424378706323_1885200404_nI created this little image back 2015 when I first started toying with the idea of creating a place where women could come again and again to reboot, recharge, re-connect with themselves, and re-energize. A place where healing could begin after domestic violence had ended. You see there is help to get you out of the crisis. Shelters, domestic violence advocate organizations, churches, etc., have programs to help you to safety. But, after the triage is over you are left alone with someone you don’t really know. Domestic violence is the systematic breaking down of a person over time. It is not easy to just start over when the person you used to be is lost and you don’t recognize the face staring back at you in the mirror. I know this because I lived this. In fact, this is why Rebel Thriver was born over 8 years ago. I was isolated, scared, and completely lost. If I could connect to one person a day I would have felt successful. I knew that there had to be other women out there who could relate to me, I just didn’t realize how many. There are thousands of us from every walk of life around the globe. Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate against social economics, education level, gender, or religion. Domestic violence is all inclusive, and whether you realize it or not there is most likely someone in your life who has been affected by on some level. True Story.

On the second day of the business seminar we were told that there was going to be a giveaway of two tickets to the Business Freedom five day intensive conference in Tallin, Estonia (March 2019).  I needed to write an impact statement as to why I thought that this would help me with my business (Rebel Thriver). You can read my impact statement here: Sweet Lemonade. I wrote about the retreat that I want to create so desperately to help other survivors so that they can reclaim their lives and learn to be thrive again.

On the third day the winner was called. I knew that my chances of winning were slim to none. I knew that there were hundreds of others from around the globe in this group who already had thriving businesses and knew exactly how they could make an immediate impact. I prayed to God right before the winner was chosen. “God, if you want this dream of mine to become a reality then I need help. I need this help. Give me a clear sign.” Then I heard my named called out as the winner! It came to me as though through a wind tunnel. Out of nowhere the girl who cannot cry started sobbing. I couldn’t have gotten a clearer sign from above. Divine Intervention? I am sure of it.

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I started following the breadcrumbs that have been left for me, and now I am going to Tallin, Estonia in March to learn how to turn this dream into a reality. I am also starting a year long Mastermind Group next month to make sure that I stay on track. I will be meeting and working with so many other amazing talented people who are going to help me make this dream a reality. Now part of the reality is that there are going to be costs associated with the travel and the Mastermind. I will be starting a fundraiser to cover these costs and I will ask all of you to help me. Help me help Rebel Thriver. Help me help you.

There is so much work to be done, but I don’t feel overwhelmed about it anymore. I know that it’s going to come together. One day Rebel Thriver is going to have a Hotel for the Soul. Until then we will keep supporting each other the way we know best, through love and understanding. xo Ella

* If anyone reading this feels that they might have a skill that can help me along this journey I would be thrilled to connect with you. I cannot do this alone. It takes a tribe. You can reach me at rebelthriver@gmail.com.

My Journey to Wellness

I believe in finding the path to your best self is critical for living your best life. In keeping with this mindset I am a self-proclaimed wellness kind of gal. What does wellness mean to me? True wellness comes when you take holistic care of your mind, body, and spirit. It’s took me years to realize that self acceptance is what will allow me to have a healthy and whole life.

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Today’s world is run by big corporations and everyday we are bombarded with million dollar advertising campaigns in an attempt to capture our dollars. The advertising tends to be in your face, and yet there is always a subliminal message that really seals the deal.  These companies pay millions every year to top marketing firms to get people hooked on their products. What if it’s not the product you are buying, but rather an emotion. A hope for what the product will allow you to feel?

I have tried since about the age of 13 to incorporate many “diets” into my life, all in an attempt to achieve the perfect body, glowing skin, and abundant energy. While in my 20’s I found myself working and starving myself most of the time to keep myself model thin. I am embarrassed to say this but for quite a while I sustained myself with buckets of coffee and chocolate Ex-lax. It wasn’t until my hair started to really fall out that I became concerned. It was then that I found out that I was pregnant with my first child, and he was sucking all of what little nutrients my body had right out of me. I will never forget sitting across from the OB/GYN while I told her of my diet. I started crying because I thought that I had already damaged my baby. It was a very emotional day for me, as I was  thrilled to find out I would become a mother for the first time, but it was shadowed by the fact that I was going to be gaining a lot of weight. As the pregnancy rolled on I developed a ferocious appetite like nothing I had ever experienced before. In order for me to keep it together my doctor never told me how the weight was piling on over the nine months. I knew that I was getting HUGE, but I just focused on being a healthy mom and having a healthy baby.

It’s been over 18 years since my first child and what I took away from the experience of being pregnant is that being healthy is the critical component to any life that wants to be well lived. I decided that for me “diets” didn’t work. I chose to eat heathy organic foods and strive to avoid the brainwashing of advertising telling me that if I ate ice cream it would make me happy. It never made me happy, but it did break my skin out and fill me with mucous.

Most recently I did the Keto “diet”. I wanted to see if I could commit to it, and ultimately to see how I would feel after three months. I didn’t find it particularly hard to get on board with since there is a wealth of info, recipes, blogs, and support groups for the program. The hardest thing was depriving myself of sugar, and that’s because I didn’t realize how addicted I had become to it. Food manufactures seem to slip it into everything in order to make things “taste better” and lets be honest, get you hooked on their products as sugar is addictive. By the end of month three, I had greater energy, clear skin, I lost weight, and the brain fog that I so often struggle with lifted. What I didn’t like was the constant berating in my head everytime I was tempted to deprive myself of something I was craving. I can be a real bitch to myself. I did the three months but it didn’t take long for me to start eating all of the things that I love, like sugar and bread.  Living a life of deprivation and self hate isn’t the path of wellness that I wanted to be on. Even thought I kept some of the keto diet (no sugar in my coffee) the weight snuck back on, my skin started breaking out, and my energy levels dropped and again. Sigh.

I was still looking for a way to become healthier without having to torture myself daily. One day I was browsing through Mind Valley’s Masterclass offerings (If you do not know Mind Valley then I suggest you check it out. Seriously.) I came across one for a quest called Wildfit 90 given by the founder, Eric Edmeades. It took me just 60 minutes to know that this was something that I had to partake in and I signed up. I am heading into week three and I am in love with the program already. I will be blogging about my journey and in 90 days we will see where I find myself. For all of you who are looking for something similar stay tuned.
xo Ella

Here is some info on Wildfit 90 and Mind Valley for you to check out:

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